Default/Factory Reset
A better way to do life?
In March last year, I had taken part in a three days writing workshop. One of the things I learnt was the need to evaluate how intentional my choices in life are. Are they just a response to what life has thrown at me? When you think about it, living one's life simply as a reaction is a tiring way live life. However, many of us practice this, subconsciously or otherwise. I didn't realize it until recently, but I had become a victim of that.
A couple of years back, I experienced a “heartbreak." I remember crying for seventy-two days straight. Yes, I kept count. Right now, I find that funny but it didn't seem so at the time. I could not see how life would go on. I was sure I would never love again though. This shaped my reality for over a year and a half until I had a simple conversation with a woman whom I hold in high esteem. All she had to do was ask me what God's original plan was and that got me thinking.
Every child comes into the world as a clean slate. With whatever experiences he or she encounters, a story is written, a life unfolds. First love embodies this. It is everything pure and true until something goes wrong and the person(s) involved carry the hurt into the next relationship and the cycle continues. Therapists would tell you of the need for healing before going into another relationship. A dear friend used to say it takes a year, five month and seventeen days to get over a heartbreak. We had the habit of making funny theories about life but the point of this one was to allow time pass.
The dictionary would define a factory reset as restoring a device to it's original settings. It is what we do when our phones or devices develop fault. We find a phone technician to “flash" the phone. So why can't we have the same attitude towards life and experiences we face?
Why swear off love when I get heartbroken when I know that the Father did not intend it so. Perhaps the most beautiful part of the Christian life is how that God yearns to have a relationship with each and every one of us. It means I can go to Him and ask that He restores me to His original plan for me, for love. The Bible tells us that, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” (Psalms 34:18 NIV).
It is important to remember that you are not a device though. The healing is not going to be instantaneous. It's going to take a process of deconstructing all that have taken root on the inside so as to build something beautiful out of it. This process will require your obedience and trust in the One who is faithful.
The amazing part is that God is the creator of man and of everything that makes up life. So, though your struggle might not be as regards love, you can rest assured knowing that the solution lies in Him. All you need do is surrender all and allow Him bring you into His rest and the plan He has for you. Allow Him heal the broken parts and restore you to the purpose for which you were made.
p.s: this is a day later than promised. I had to keep tweaking this over and again. It didn't seem right yet, but it's a process.
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